Andrea Novakowski is a wonderful career specialist I’ve known for some time. Her thought of the day greets me every morning. Today’s thought:
““The art of happiness begins with developing an understanding of what are the truest sources of happiness, and setting our priorities in life based on the cultivation of those sources.””
I love this. We can think of happiness in a global way, hoping it touches us at least a little bit every day. But how about if it comes to us because we’ve put thought into which are the truest sources for our self? You may find it’s the simple things like the joy over a beautiful sunrise or the first glimpse of your baby daughter or granddaughter. Or maybe it’s a sense of clarity over a decision you’ve been ruminating over, and finally you are at peace with your choice.
‘Understanding what our truest sources of happiness.’ When have you last thought about that? And if you know what those truest sources are, have you set your priorities so you cultivate those sources?
I think I’m pretty good on part one of the Dalai Lama’s words, but the priorities part is where I fall down. Much as I intend to get there, too often I miss a grandchild’s baseball or soccer game because I either forgot to get their schedule or I made multiple commitments for the same time. Seeing them running across a field on an October morning or throwing some heat from the pitcher’s mound fills me with joy. Why do I miss these moments? How can I when I know how much they mean? And what if my being there means as much to them?
How do you make your priorities work? Do you have a formula?
The D word
I’m thinking discipline. Maybe that’s what I’m missing. The discipline to make my priorities stick, so those truest sources of happiness reach me more often.
On the health spectrum, is it possible that taking care of yourself could be a true source of joy? Could it be the very thing that gives you the clarity to identify those sources and the energy to pursue them? Here’s what I suggest:
Eat healthy, of course. Fruits and vegetables the colors of the season, nuts, seeds, whole grains organic tofu, clean grass fed meat and wild seafood and water. Choose from the list for 90% of your daily consumption and relax on the rest most days.
Rest. Don’t busy yourself that you forget about that soccer game or whatever it is that’s your priority. Take breaks and breathe deeply. Every day.
Move. Keep your body in motion to keep it toned and flexible. It’s not meant to sit much.
Hug. Connect with those you love. Tell them how special they are. Their response will make you as happy as they will be when they hear it.
Keep on board with your priorities. And I’ll do the same. We deserve it. The Dalai Lama has reminded us.